Handful Of Bowmans

Intentional living with our little handful

Mom

To The Direct Sales/Network Marketing Woman

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What are you doing? Seriously. WHAT are you doing? WHY do you put yourself out there day after day? Why did you join the bandwagon? WHO do you think you are?

Let me guess…

You are a stay at home, who wants to contribute financially, to lighten the burden for your husband, so you actually CAN stay home to mother those sweet kiddos.

You are so busy, too busy, but in all of the busy-ness you have lost a little piece of yourself and you want to have something that makes you feel good. To have YOUR thing.

You are single, courageous and you have big goals. NOW is the time to chase them.

You are single, and a mom. You have a family to provide for and instead of struggling to make ends meet or working 2 jobs away from home you want to work FROM home and set an example for your awesome children.

You simply just love your product and truly ENJOY sharing it with others and seeing it positively effect them like it does you.

You see other successful women rocking the business and you KNOW you can too.

Yeah. I know you. I see WHAT you are doing. It’s not always easy but it is fun and rewarding. I understand your WHY. No matter what it is, it’s noble. And I definitely see WHO you are. You are a fierce, smart woman who is willing to fight for what you want because IT MATTERS. And YOU MATTER. Well done. [Fist Bump]

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A Perfect Life?

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We all know social media can be really good and really bad. It has so much to offer but it also can take away from our joy. With so many avenues to share our lives, social media can force us into some strange places emotionally.

I often wonder if our always-connected, Pinterest-perfect ways are a detriment to our ability to find contentment. The continuous cycle of comparison has created an environment for some to actually resent “friends” for always being happy and presenting a “perfect life.” Shouldn’t we be desiring this for others?

Unhappy with happy?

I love to scroll my social media and see a feed full of great life moments. I love to stay connected with friends, family and acquaintances by sharing the things that bring me joy. I love to see happy people and I love for people to see my happy.

I don’t love to see drama or negativity. Gossip is fueled when we over share. It’s important to keep some parts of our lives private. The world won’t be tender with our struggles and vulnerabilities.

It should be safe to share life’s sweet moments, though. As we scroll, let’s be generous in throwing hearts and focus on our real hearts in the process.

And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, 25 not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another—and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

Hebrews 10:24-25 NIV

The Real Issue

Perhaps the bigger issue at hand is a feeling of insecurity or inferiority. Maybe the problem is that some people don’t want others to have what they want. Our human nature causes us to find significance and value by feeling “better” than someone else, so we look for flaws. When we don’t find any we feel worse about ourselves, then resent their happiness. Instead of looking to judge and criticize others, we should look to recognize our own blessings. God has hand picked them and they are a gift.

For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans for welfare and not for evil, to give you a future and a hope.”

Jeremiah 29:11

Is There Deception?

I think it is safe to assume that everyone has pain and we are all a little bit of a hot mess. Is anyone really trying to convince the world that they their life is perfect? Why would we share our bad moments? And who wants to see that anyway? Even in our times of struggle it’s important to share our joy as a reminder of what we have to be grateful for.

Not that I have already obtained this or am already perfect, but I press on to make it my own, because Christ Jesus has made me his own. Brothers, I do not consider that I have made it my own. But one thing I do: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead, I press on toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus.”

Philippians 3:12-14 ESV

Beware of the Eye Roll

We can all fall into the comparison trap. It can cause us to roll our eyes at a post, feel a twinge of jealousy or cause us to gossip. Look for the signs-the little thoughts that start to creep into your mind-then knock them down. Don’t feed them. Fight them. Search your soul to find the root of your feelings. Pray. Lets root for each other to have a blessed, joyful, “perfect” life. And share it ALL OVER social media.

Look carefully then how you walk, not as unwise but as wise, making the best use of the time, because the days are evil. Therefore, do not be foolish, but understand what the will of the Lord is.”

Ephesians 5:15-17 ESV

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Your Face Says It All

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You know those people who just make you smile? The ones who you look forward to talking to and being around. They are pleasant and seem to care about others more than themselves. I want to be one of them.

It’s amazing what motherhood can do to you. Good and bad. It’s the best job in the world but also the hardest. It can feel lonely at the same time you are craving alone time. You can have it all under control and a moment later you lose it. You have to put yourself last when you want to be first just once. You serve endlessly. You love so much it hurts.

I used to be good at hiding the struggles of being a mom when I was around others. That was 3 kids ago. With each child, the challenges grew and I got to a point where I quit trying to act like I had it all together all the time.

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